In the New Testament of the Bible, when I read about Jesus and his teaching, the one thing that really catches my attention is this: when Jesus began his mission to preach the good news, many people didn't follow him and didn't listen to him. They instead tried to stop him from teaching the people who needed some guidance, direction, confidence and motivation to live a better life. There have been obstacles in Jesus' way but those obstacles didn't deter him. He was not diverted away from his mission, rather focused deeply on accomplishing it.
There will be similar case in your life too. You may have wonderful dreams, goals and desires to achieve but then there will be people around you who would never like you to be successful and do what you desire to do. They would interfere you every way possible, but you got to be strong and focused in your mission to pursue the ultimate life purpose.
Mahatma Gandhi, a great man, I personally have a great regard for him. I like the way he was focused and persevered in accomplishing his mission to provide freedom for his people. He worked hard, suffered the mistreatment and faced astute opposition and betrayal from his own people. There were people during his time who didn't want him to succeed in achieving freedom. However his own hard work, faith, determination, discipline and courage gave him what he wanted.
Our well meaning friends with whom we associate on a daily basis, don't really expect you to be more successful than them. They want you to do just good or not so good as long as you are their friends. There is no friendship as such without giving, taking and losing. To sustain your attachment with such people, may not push you forward towards your goals.
Therefore, the best thing that you can do is to be watchful of those people who really don't wish you succeed in life. If you continue to associate with such people, you won't be making any progress in life. You won't be accomplishing your goals. You won't be learning new skills. You won't be joining the gym. You won't be living your dreams. It is better that you change your circle of friends and look for people who really support, encourage and empower you to go for the dreams and goals. These kinds of people are hard to find today. You got to be seeking all the time and if you find them, treat them well, learn about them and their business or philosophy. They will really uplift and assist you reach where you want to go.
If Bill Gates, Steve Jobs and Michael Dell had paid attention to those discouraging voices from their own people, they would not have created giant industries in the world. We wouldn't have known about them. They would have been same like the rest of the crowd. The interesting part is they were definite about their passion or goals as a result their goals became definite about them. Don't listen to others' saying, it is their opinions. They are making opinions based on their conclusion of the reality, which is not your own conclusion. You may not agree with them because your conclusion or experience shows a possibility. Always believe in your own reasoning, conclusion, assessment and experiences. Don't follow what others say based on their conclusion.
When people are there to pull you down, you must apply the law of opposites. The more they don't want you to succeed, greater and more intensive should be your drive to succeed. If you have this attitude you will succeed in life no matter what happens to you. The more people oppose me, the greater I feel I get the opportunity and advantage to succeed.
Learn to set your goals, write them down because writing helps you to be certain and definite about your goals, once you become definite about your goals, you will draw closer and closer towards your dreams. When you have written down your goals, you can easily challenge those who don't want to succeed because your goals will guide you, direct you, propel you and motivate you to venture ahead.
Alwed Ekka
Guide Coach Mentor
