It is very strange to know that there are no two people of same mind, thinking, attitude, desires, interests and lifestyles in the whole world. However, there are high percentage of people who pretend to be of same mind, opinions, thoughts and lifestyle who tend to be the birds of a feather but in reality there is none. No two people think the same way as you do or as you believe.
People are friends with one another because it is basically to escape from solitude or from fear of being alone and insecurity. The deep desire to feel loved, appreciated, encouraged and accepted as an important individual causes people to seek companionship. If there were no feelings of insecurity, poverty, illness and loneliness, people wouldn't seek any companionship with others. They would instead live an independent life irrespective of gender.
People agree with others in order to be in friendship and meet the basic human needs of emotional feelings though they would not agree with the other if it hadn't been friendship the ground of such co-existence. People differ a lot in thinking, behaving, talking, listening and understanding.
All the married couples too have no 100% same mind, attitude, thinking or opinions about many aspects of life here on earth. The married couples wouldn't live together on the basis of sex, procreation, love and friendship if they didn't compromise and conform with the others.
People should be truthful about sharing their views, opinions and thinking with their beloved ones so that the differences could be known and understood in order to create a better relationship with each other. Of course, there is a problem of pretension where though the other is unique and possesses different mindset, tries to conform to the group whichever he/she finds some similarities.
People must accept the differences and try to have independent opinions of themselves so that they don't fall into crowd thinking. Each individual must think for himself so that there can be a better lifestyle.
Parents are not of same mind with their kids. The kids think differently and operate from different perspectives and in the same manner, parents too operate in different ways. That means, there is no one mind, one soul, one spirit and one enthusiasm or goals.
In my view, people must learn to have their unique and independent minds and not try to conform to the group mentality. The herd mentality does no one good except that it creates dependency, security, comfort, fear and the knowledge of lack, poverty, sickness etc.
Alwed Ekka
Guide Coach Mentor
