Forgive Yourself And Others To Receive Health, Wealth, Happiness and Peace!

“When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.” Catherine Ponder

To forgive yourself and others is not a religious thing. It is an spiritual act and you must consider it to be a tonic for good health, wealth, happiness and peace. Forgiveness is a very powerful tool to let go pent up emotions, grudges, anger, doubts, enmity and other bitter experiences of life. It essential to learn how to forgive people everyday so that there will be an empty space for good things to come in.

Forgiveness is a law and when applied can solve any daunting problems and heal any health issues. People suffer from poverty, lack and misfortune because they hoard within them all the grudge, anger, bitterness and ill-feelings that they encounter sometime or the other in life. You must never store the negative energies because negative energies will drive away all the good things that are on your way.

Learn to empty yourself of all the negative experiences and release them completely by forgiving. You don't need the negative energy to keep you alive. You need the positive energy to provide you all that you desire to have. So there is no goodness in having all that you don't desire to have.

For instance, people suffer from various illnesses because they have within them the negative energies which turn into poisonous toxins and eat up the cells and erode the immune system slowly. People don't know why they are falling sick or why their illness is not getting healed.

When there is no discord in the body, there can be harmony and positive flow of energies and they can create only health, happiness and peace. You must make a separate time, may be half an hour everyday to release your negative toxins from body by forgiving those who hurt you or make you feel unworthy.

Empty yourself as much as you can to welcome the prosperity, abundance, health, wealth, peace and happiness. Foster the positive energies, the positive experiences and the positive thoughts to avoid disease, anger and toxins. Anger, grudges and negative emotions are more powerful destructive tools than allowing love, friendship, peace, understanding and forgiveness to control your life.

Forgive yourself first. Forgive others second but do forgive in order to experience health, wealth, love, happiness and peace. If you don't enjoy a good health, wealth, happiness, love and peace, it is only because you are not releasing the negative energies to go from you. When the room is full and cluttered, nothing new can come in or stay. It is important that you got to release the things that you don't want and welcome the things that you do want.

Keep forgiving every day and you will keep receiving all the good health, wealth, happiness, peace and love. Try this simple principle but hard to do. However if you want to experience good things, you need to release the hard feelings and emotions. Don't ever hold on for a day or two because it will multiply in numbers and become a heavy load to carry. With such a heavy load you will be defeated and dejected in life. So better learn to forgive as much as you can everyday.

Alwed Ekka
Guide Coach Mentor

You Are The Light!

"Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that." Martin Luther King Jr.

Two thousand years ago, a great spiritual leader Jesus of Nazareth, taught the common people to believe themselves by saying,"You are the light of the world." There is not a slight doubt about it and nobody can ever debate say that it is not true. It is true and we are indeed the light. You are the brightly shining light who cast away all the darkness and unclear path. Believe, you are the light to cast away all darkness and invisibility.

In India, there is a festival called 'Diwali' - a festival of light. It casts away the darkness and shadows that stand as obstacles to good life. I personally like the symbolic meaning of this festival because it is a celebration of light and not darkness. People in India on the occasion of Diwali light their houses and yards with earthen lamps and it signifies a great meaning for those who understand the celebration in true spirit.

Since the age of human civilization, light or fire has played a very significant role in people's life and it is this light which is present in each of us guides, directs and helps people to live a better life. Somewhere on the way, people lost the sense of awareness and didn't believe themselves that they were indeed the light.

You have within you the light that can shine and brighten your future and the path if you really believe that you are the light. Each one must light one's lamp and carry the light to shine so that there won't be darkness spreading all over the world. Today people have forgotten the truth that they are the light who can actually brighten their future. So search for your light and go ahead in illuminating your life and the life of others.

Recognize your light and use your light to brighten the world, people's lives, your life and your family's life. See the light and not the wrong things. Forgive the errors to welcome the light so that there will be light everywhere. You may not be successful now but you will become soon if you believe you have the light to shine brightly. The sun light penetrates every soul and there is light within you. You don't lack that light or sparkle to make your future bright.

"It's better to light a candle than to curse the darkness." Eleanor Roosevelt

Alwed Ekka
Guide Coach Mentor

Government's Power Is Shrinking While Private Corporations Increasing!

After the success of Industrial age, the big industry heads no longer wanted the Governments to dictate and make legal laws for the industries to do any kinds of business. The big industries didn't want to comply and regulated with the laws made by the governments so they decided to be agents for law making themselves. The governments are no longer the most powerful organization in the world. They don't have power and authority today that they enjoyed once. The government's power is shrinking while private corporations are increasing. The private corporations control and make the laws for the citizens to comply with.

Think about for a minute, who are invited to board meetings or strategic meetings organized by Governments all over the world? Think also, who are not invited and not included in the discussion forum? Next, take into consideration, who has the final verdict or say? You may think that governments have the power to decide and make laws. It is wrong, the industry heads who are invited to discuss and draw strategic plans, are the ones who have more say and power. The ordinary citizens are not invited to the meeting. The common people know the outcome of meetings through the media channels and you know who owns these media news and channels.

The common people think and still believe that their government is going to save them from recession, inflation and job loss but actually it is not so. The governments all over the world have become puppets in the hands of the few big private organizations. These large organizations are no longer concerned about the welfare of entire humanity. They only mind their own profits and earnings.

The governments all over the world have lost their actual place and they don't know whether to take care of the masses or the few. These government officials have their own families and they want to protect their family members so they are ready to sacrifice the masses for the sake of few of their family members' well-being. It is heartening to know that majority of people are ignorant about the foolishness of the government yet they place their trust in them for protection and solution.

Keeping the environment clean, free from pollution, toxins and other hazardous substances should be their first priority, but the government doesn't form any major laws to disqualify industries that pollute and endanger animals and people's lives. The governments from all over the world come together to discuss about climate change and global warming, but it is only a show and there is nothing deeper there. They don't find any viable alternative ways to solve people's demands though there are some ways.

Today we pay for everything, water, air, oil, goods and the services. The hospitals use gas cylinders for the treatment of the patients and it is charged. We pay for bottled water today because big industries say that the tap water is not fit for drinking. It will not be so long when we will buy oxygen bag and mask for our daily breathing. The pollution rate is very high all over the world that people have diseases like asthma, cancer and other illnesses.

The question arises, if the governments all over the world had power in their hands, they would have certainly found new ways to lead people to live and exist in this 21st century. Why not choose health and wellness over exploiting the earth for resources which cannot sustain all humans for a long time if things continue to accelerate at the present speed, then sure human existence on earth would be a total extinction.

The governments have lost their power by favouring the few over the masses but they go to the masses to beg for votes because they know the few people they profess allegiance to, don't really choose them through ballots. The masses are ignorant and they don't know much and they will never know much because they don't bother about it until one day when things would be too late they will wake up and by then nothing much could be changed and prevented.

Alwed Ekka
Guide Coach Mentor

The Great I Am!

I am what I think. I am what I feel. I am what I say. I am what I do. I am what I see. I am what I believe. I am what I understand. I am what I mean. I am what I eat. I am what I drink. I am what I like. I am what I listen to. I am what I choose. I am what I want to become. I am what I dream.

I am how I respond. I am how I think. I am how I feel. I am how I do. I am how I challenge. I am how I take. I am how I understand. I am how I listen. I am how I choose. I am how I learn. I am how I believe. I am how I work. I am how I sow. I am how I see. I am how I practice. I am how I walk.

I am where I live. I am where I sleep. I am where I work. I am where I study. I am where I sow. I am where I go. I am where I want to go.

I am when I think. I am when I feel. I am when I say. I am when I do. I am when I believe. I am when I understand. I am when I mean. I am when I eat. I am when I eat. I am when I like. I am when I listen. I am when I choose. I am when I decide. I am when I want. I am when I sit. I am when share.

Alwed Ekka
Guide Coach Mentor

Learn To Control Your Emotions!

"A man who is master of himself can end a sorrow as easily as he can invent a pleasure. I don't want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them." Oscar Wilde“

People come under the influence of many kinds of emotions on a daily basis and it is at times very hard to keep them under control. Humans are emotional beings and if they are not matured and educated, they can easily be misled by emotions that don't serve our purpose. It is very important to detach oneself from some negative emotions that control us yet don't serve us well.

Vincent Van Gogh said, "Let's not forget that the little emotions are the great captains of our lives and we obey them without realizing it." Many people are ruled by negative emotions more than the positive emotions of joy, love, peace, health. So why not learn to have those feelings and emotions which you want to express on the daily basis. If you don't do your homework to control and understand your emotions, you can easily lose your control and thus your moods can be influenced negatively.

On a daily basis, you may be encountering many people and different events at odd hours of the day and you will never feel the same all the time. Sometimes, your anger may take hold of you suddenly when others don't agree with your ideas and opinions. You may scream at them and only to feel sorry later for the sudden outburst. There is a way to control your emotion and you can easily respond positively to any events at any point of time.

Steven Covey writes in his book, 'The seven habits of highly effective people' that we should not react to an event negatively rather we should be proactive meaning we should respond positively to any circumstances. In other words, if somebody suddenly cuts in front of you while driving, you don't have to yell or vent your anger, you just need to be cool, calm and happy. Here you have a choice to vent your anger or show a big smile. If you smile at them, that will make a big difference to you and others.

Instead of reacting to criticism, negative remarks and disagreement, you must choose to be proactive. You can choose to be polite, cool and gentle. This way you can control your emotions and lead a happy life always. Carl W. Buechner once said, "They may forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel." This is very important in life because this is what you want to feel and experience in your life.

In order to conclude, I would like to quote here Lakshmi Mittal, a billionaire who said this, "At the end of the day you have to keep emotions away." Learn to control your emotions that don't serve your purpose and revive those emotions that spur you to positive action. Be proactive and be responsible. Act and don't react to any events abruptly. Take a deep breath and respond politely. Show a sign of maturity.

Alwed Ekka
Guide Coach Mentor

You Can Overcome Your Low Self-Esteem(Part-3 Concluded)

It is said that people have self-concept about themselves. This self-concept determines every thing a person wants to do in life. Self-concept is a bundle of beliefs about oneself and about every part of life and the world. The self-concept here is the master program and is in your subconscious computer.

You are where you and what you are because of what you believe yourself to be on the daily basis. Whether you are rich or poor, fat or thin, healthy or sick, successful or unsuccessful, your beliefs, the self-concept control your life. It is very clear, your outer world is an expression of your inner world. If you want to change, you must work on your self-concept and make a correction there.

You should never allow your poor self-esteem to control your inner mind and if it controls your subconscious computer then you are sure to feel low and have low esteem through out your lifetime. However you can easily come out of this problem if you change your inner beliefs about yourself and be open to have a positive attitude about it.

Self-concept is made up of three parts and number one is Self-Ideal. Self-ideal means the vision you have for life, the picture and images that you hold about yourself to be in the real world. If you form an ideal self and you want to be that you can be because it is internal thing. It seems that people who overcome low-esteem, have very clear self-ideal. While those who are struggling and unsuccessful have unclear ideals in most cases.

The second part is the self-image. It is the way you see yourself, and the way you think about yourself as you live your daily life. It is the inner mirror and shows you what you are. Make an effort to change it deliberately. Think about yourself as the most competent, talented and efficient individual to achieve your goals. If you behave consistently according to the picture that you hold of yourself on the inside you can feel, talk, walk, think and achieve better things in life.

The third part is self-esteem. Your self-esteem is how you feel about yourself. It is the emotional aspect of your personality and it is the key to happiness, success and wealth. It gives energy, enthusiasm, vitality, optimism and power to make you a high performing and high-achieving man or woman.

How valuable and worthwhile you feel about yourself, how much you like and accept yourself as a good person, talented person will determine your outside success. Remember you got to believe yourself, accept yourself, love yourself, see yourself as a victor and value yourself to be, do, have and enjoy life.

Alwed Ekka
Guide Coach Mentor

You Can Overcome Your Low Self-Esteem(Part-2)

"Other people's opinion of you does not have to become your reality." Les Brown

A good self-esteem is very important in life because without it, one can easily sabotage one's success, happiness and lifestyle. You have to recognize your ability to become what you desire and wish. When you know yourself well, no negative words or remarks can influence you. Yesterday, I discussed here about one of the first ways to improve one's esteem level.

2. See yourself as a victor and not a victim.

Many people who suffer from low self-esteem see themselves as victims of some circumstances and they don't feel they have a power to control them. Circumstances reveal to us who we are actually and any circumstances can help us become a better person. You must dwell on what you can do and what you have; don't dwell on what you didn't do or what you could have done. People think mostly on their negative happenings more than the positive meaning. You must learn to perceive your bad circumstances in a better way.

Mahatma Gandhi, when he was fighting for independence, he went through many challenges and dehumanizing situation yet he never lost his self-esteem. He was thrown out of the train in South Africa, yet he didn't feel bad or didn't see himself as a man of less worth rather he was motivated to be a great worthwhile person. And today, he is respected, remembered and loved by many people for spreading the non-violence.

You may encounter failures, setbacks and loss, but they should never make you feel inferior or incapable because external things don't make us happy and strong. It is your internal things that will make you strong and healthy. Feel better inside of you and you will be happy to live another day. People fail in their endeavours and they give up completely and as a result their self-esteem goes down. Yes, chances are there, but you should never allow your esteem to go low. Abraham Lincoln failed many times. Thomas Edison failed thousand times, NASA scientists have failed many times and many other successful people failed many times but they never allowed their self-esteem to remain low. Instead such incidents made them to be strong and upbeat.

3. Self-esteem comes when you respect and value yourself.

Majority of population, all over the world feel that others should show them respect and honour. However they don't think that they should first respect and value themselves. Many don't consider themselves as respectful, valuable and priceless for many reasons but why not think oneself as very respectful indeed? If you truly respect yourself, you will value or empower yourself and then you will begin to see yourself as someone capable and talented.

Nobody really knows what they are worth until some interests or hobbies stand out in their lives. For instance, Bill Gates had some peculiar interests towards computer and he went after it as a result his self-esteem improved because he improved as a student. Similarly, Oprah didn't know she would be so successful in hosting her shows until the day came when she got the opportunity and that uplifted her soul and standard. She felt better because respected and valued herself for what she was capable of doing.

Great people respect themselves, they value themselves and they understand their capabilities. So learn to respect yourself and value what you possess. "It's surprising how many persons go through life without ever recognizing that their feelings toward other people are largely determined by their feelings toward themselves, and if you're not comfortable within yourself, you can't be comfortable with others."Sidney J. Harris

When people are broke or heart broken, they lose their hopes and begin to have low self-esteem. Their esteem level comes down drastically that they no longer feel energetic to begin all over again. When you are broke, it is because of a reason; perhaps you are broke for developing some aspects of your life. If your loved one, broke away from you then there should be some valid reason and for that you don't need to feel low because obviously that wasn't supposed to be for you. Learn to keep things in right perspectives.

Alwed Ekka

Guide Coach Mentor