Be watchful, only some people really want you to succeed!

In the New Testament of the Bible, when I read about Jesus and his teaching, the one thing that really catches my attention is this: when Jesus began his mission to preach the good news, many people didn't follow him and didn't listen to him. They instead tried to stop him from teaching the people who needed some guidance, direction, confidence and motivation to live a better life. There have been obstacles in Jesus' way but those obstacles didn't deter him. He was not diverted away from his mission, rather focused deeply on accomplishing it.

There will be similar case in your life too. You may have wonderful dreams, goals and desires to achieve but then there will be people around you who would never like you to be successful and do what you desire to do. They would interfere you every way possible, but you got to be strong and focused in your mission to pursue the ultimate life purpose.

Mahatma Gandhi, a great man, I personally have a great regard for him. I like the way he was focused and persevered in accomplishing his mission to provide freedom for his people. He worked hard, suffered the mistreatment and faced astute opposition and betrayal from his own people. There were people during his time who didn't want him to succeed in achieving freedom. However his own hard work, faith, determination, discipline and courage gave him what he wanted.

Our well meaning friends with whom we associate on a daily basis, don't really expect you to be more successful than them. They want you to do just good or not so good as long as you are their friends. There is no friendship as such without giving, taking and losing. To sustain your attachment with such people, may not push you forward towards your goals.

Therefore, the best thing that you can do is to be watchful of those people who really don't wish you succeed in life. If you continue to associate with such people, you won't be making any progress in life. You won't be accomplishing your goals. You won't be learning new skills. You won't be joining the gym. You won't be living your dreams. It is better that you change your circle of friends and look for people who really support, encourage and empower you to go for the dreams and goals. These kinds of people are hard to find today. You got to be seeking all the time and if you find them, treat them well, learn about them and their business or philosophy. They will really uplift and assist you reach where you want to go.

If Bill Gates, Steve Jobs and Michael Dell had paid attention to those discouraging voices from their own people, they would not have created giant industries in the world. We wouldn't have known about them. They would have been same like the rest of the crowd. The interesting part is they were definite about their passion or goals as a result their goals became definite about them. Don't listen to others' saying, it is their opinions. They are making opinions based on their conclusion of the reality, which is not your own conclusion. You may not agree with them because your conclusion or experience shows a possibility. Always believe in your own reasoning, conclusion, assessment and experiences. Don't follow what others say based on their conclusion.

When people are there to pull you down, you must apply the law of opposites. The more they don't want you to succeed, greater and more intensive should be your drive to succeed. If you have this attitude you will succeed in life no matter what happens to you. The more people oppose me, the greater I feel I get the opportunity and advantage to succeed.

Learn to set your goals, write them down because writing helps you to be certain and definite about your goals, once you become definite about your goals, you will draw closer and closer towards your dreams. When you have written down your goals, you can easily challenge those who don't want to succeed because your goals will guide you, direct you, propel you and motivate you to venture ahead.

Alwed Ekka
Guide Coach Mentor

Have the prosperity you want!

Prosperity must be experienced in all three areas of planes. The three planes are physical, mental and spiritual. These three planes can be ordered in this form- first, comes the spiritual plane, second the mental plane and third the physical plane.

Of course many people like to follow this way, they want to see immediate results on physical plane and when they don’t see the results they are looking for, they get disappointed and frustrated in life. They then fall into mental plane where the idea of poverty, idea of lack, idea of not having enough, idea of not having cars, flats, fat bank accounts etc demotivate them. They get withdrawn and lose hope. When they are very sad facing such bad circumstance, they seek God for help in the spiritual plane. God can do nothing more than to give a shelter in the church but nothing will change because the person has resigned to his destiny.

1. Spiritual Plane
“To live fully on the spiritual plane of life, you need time for quiet contemplation; for meditation, prayer, spiritual study, attendance at churches, lectures and satisfying association with others on the spiritual path.” Catherine Ponder

Prosperity, abundance and great wealth is accomplished first in the spiritual plane because the spiritual plane is conscious and the prosperity gets manifested first in the conscious universe where the universe is always in connection with our spirit. It is in spiritual plane that we must set goals, dreams, set our visions, clear our mission and get our ultimate purpose. If you program yourselves for all the good things that you desire, you can get it because they exist already in the spiritual plane. You just need to prepare your mind to go after.

2. Mental Plane
“You cannot live fully on the mental plane without satisfying creative mental activity; without books and time to enjoy them; without time to enjoy music, art, other cultural interests; without opportunity and money for travel an intellectual association with others of similar interests.” Catherine Ponder

Once you have created prosperity, health and happiness consciousness in spiritual plane, you can easily do the homework to create mental images of prosperity and affirm it by repetition. The thoughts and ideas of prosperity that you hold in your mind, will begin to manifest in the real world. The more you think about the prosperity, health and happiness, the closer you will be reaching in order to have them.

3. Physical Plane
“You cannot live fully on the physical plane without proper food, comfortable clothing, warm shelter and without freedom from excessive toil.” Catherin Ponder

When you have created in the consciousness of spirit, the prosperity, health and happiness and then thought about the prosperity, health and happiness all the while in your mind longingly, then the next step of manifestation of prosperity will be easy.

The results, goals, dreams and objectives that you set in your spiritual plane will be manifested in the physical plane. You must practice here patience and delayed gratification because not all your goals will be realized at one time. Things will come true as the time comes and as you continue to follow these steps.

Goals need to be set and they need to be programmed in your unconscious part of your brain through meditation, affirmation, visualization and thinking. Spiritual plane is of higher order and once it is programmed and passed over to the mental plane as good pictures or thoughts and ideas, the results at the physical plane will be manifested automatically for you.

Alwed Ekka
Guide Coach Mentor

Our Personal Philosophy Determines our Future Successes and Failures!

Jim Rohn, the great American success philosopher, speaker and personal development guru said once that personal philosophy is like the set of the sail. Personal philosophy is the foundation of success and failures in life. Everything that we experience on a daily basis or the books we read, seminars we attend, people we associate, the work we do, the country we live in and education and information that we acquire, all determine our personal success and failures.

I didn't get convince when Jim Rohn said that our personal philosophy determines our success and failures, instead I went ahead and meditated on this insight myself to ascertain its validity and truthfulness. And the better things began to occur in my life when I worked hard to form my genuine personal philosophy. I am convinced today that our personal philosophy is major determining factor of success and failures in life.

Ever since we were little children, we got multitude of inputs about life, people, health, wealth, success, failures, richness, poverty, money, government, jobs, education, relationship, happiness and freedom. We formed our unique views regarding ourselves, our capabilities, intelligence, beliefs, values etc. and they in turn permitted us to act according to our programmed beliefs and attitudes.

Many successful people have built their own philosophy and their individual philosophy which set the sail towards greater abundance, achievement and goals. People who don't have a clear personal philosophy, they drift away in any direction and they don't arrive where they actually intend to reach because their philosophy doesn't permit them to reach there.

I am working hard to form a good personal philosophy which will really guide me towards the success that I look forward to get in my life. I am putting in enough efforts to make some correction in disciplines, learn new mindsets, and programming my mind to accomplish those results which I have in my mind.

Personal philosophy can be positive or negative and the results too correspond to the nature of one's philosophy. You must be very clear about what you want in life and based on that you must develop your philosophy. Philosophy is the main guiding principle for you and it leads you to the direction you want to travel. You can't say I want to travel to any direction because you can end up no where.

Your philosophy will influence how much you achieve in life and how less you succeed in life. If you are struggling at the moment then you know what to do. You need to correct, review, reline, revise and rewrite your personal philosophy so that all the mental barriers can be eliminated.

Philosophy is nothing but one's thinking. You must think in ways that will promise whatever you desire deeply. Philosophy helps one to think in accordance with goals, dreams, vision and purpose. Philosophy is like a newly built road on which you must drive your car smoothly towards particular direction which you have decided.

So take up the responsibility to form your working philosophy so that you accomplish all that you desire and hope to enjoy your life to the full. Accomplishment of things desired, lead to greater happiness because you value those things. Think about your goals, health, lifestyle and happiness and you will be living that lifestyle soon.

Alwed Ekka
Guide Coach Mentor

Graduate from rote learning!

The schools and college systems make the simplest subjects so complicated that the students lose interests in serious studies. No teacher, or professor tries to explain to the students in simple, basic and understandable language rather they show off their smartness be making things difficult for pupils to comprehend. They don't apply the concepts with the real life examples which can easily remove the doubts of students.

When the subjects become so complicated and beyond understanding capacity, the students have no better choice than to learn by memorizing. The rote learning is the only available choice for most students when concepts are hard to crack. Actually all students can't study well by rote learning. There is a drawback in the present education system all over the world.

Students must learn by understanding the concepts with examples so that the insights carry some deep meaning for students. Students' careers are determined by rote learning and the job markets really acknowledge the present school system too. Those who gain high grades by rote learning are thought to be smart and intelligent and are given high paying jobs.

I think certificates and marks card should not be the only criteria for getting jobs. Students' other capabilities have to be identified and understood before labelling some students clever and others dumb.

Anyway, students must graduate from rote learning and learn instead through practical application with establishing some connections through accurate examples. Students are born wise, clever and capable, so they possess the necessary skills to make the subjects simple and easier.

Alwed Ekka
Guide Coach Mentor

Follow your own passion and love!

According to me, people who have accomplished great successes in life became successful because they followed their own passion and love. They did what they loved or they loved what they did. These two ways made people scale up in their career, profession and business ventures.

In the schools and colleges students study mainly to get jobs or pursue the studies that they don't really want to continue but because of their parents, they take up any subjects their parents want them to study. The students don't really make the choice of studying as per their desires. If they choose according to their heart or passion, it seems illogical to their parents and children don't want to hurt their parents further, they eventually accept whatever their guardians tell them so.

I am very much fond of Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Michael Dell, Richard Branson and many other successful men and women who went after their ultimate passion and love and made themselves super winners. They could be real winners in their lives because of the power of their passion or love. They learned about their love and paid enough attention to invest time and energy. They had clarity of their goals and dreams and because of this clarity, they were able to focus on their passion. Since they focused all their attention on their love, they built momentums and disciplines, which finally turned them into achievers.

The person whose passion was in musics, songs, acting, arts, photographies, writing, speaking, teaching, investing, enterprising etc, did follow their unique passion and today they are considered lucky by the world. In reality, everyone could be called lucky, provided they all pursue their passion and ultimate love. People must first qualify by learning and studying about their particular areas of interests and hobbies and then they can go on to become big in life.

I would encourage everyone to find your niche, the passion or the ultimate love of your life and follow it 24/7. You can get all that you want in your life. But first you must do your homework.

Alwed Ekka
Guide Coach Mentor

The Words Do Become Flesh!

"Words are the most powerful tools invented by humans." Dr. Fuller

You are the words you speak. In other words you are the total sum of the words you use in day to day life. Every vocabulary, every single word that you utter shows who you are and that in turn gives you your result.

2010 years ago, Jesus of Nazareth, spoke this, "A man does not live on bread alone, but every word that comes forth from the Mouth of God."

There is no doubt about that and we are all the creatures of the words, ever since humans learned to communicate through languages. The animals have no spoken languages, but I do believe, they too communicate with each other by not merely words, but rather by the transmission of mind or instinct, which we humans have lost the contact.

Be careful what you say. Say the words that you want to become and avoid the words that don't choose to become. Life is a gift for people, therefore learn to educate yourself to speak your desires, your dreams and goals rather than somebody's dreams or goals or aspirations.

Nobody likes to hear negative or bad news all the time. You got to be choosy in terms of words that you utter on a daily basis. Words have the power to break the marriage, create misunderstanding, cause a great war between individuals or countries and at the same time it brings peace, harmony, good relationship, friendship and positive environment around the region.

The words that are positive, encouraging and empowering, are like the words of God, coming from the mouth of God as referred by Jesus. They build the individual, society and the nations. They attract a large number of audience.

So, as we know now that words do become real in life, we need to be careful in using them to our benefits and we must never cause hurtful feelings to others. It is always better to choose and speak the words that build humanity rather than destroy the world. Use the words as tools for good purpose and avoid using them for bad ones.

Alwed Ekka
Guide Coach Mentor

Why do married couples get separated?

We have entered into a new era which is completely different from what it used to be in the past when our parents and grand parents lived their lives. The marriage was considered very sacred and as an institution it commanded great degrees of respect, commitment, loyalty, integrity, honesty and submission. Today, due to rapid changes in education, economy, lifestyle, attitude, philosophy, technology and mindset, people have begun to question everything that was considered once true and unquestionable.

According to me, if we operate from old philosophy of marriage and relationship, the old ideas won't fit into the new ideas because of new rules and disciplines or habits that have been discovered by people in this present generation. I believe, no two individuals are of one mind, one thought or one attitude. The couples fall apart from each other due to several reasons and I want to explore those reasons here.

1. The married couples fail to take up personal development together.
When two separate individuals date each other, they see themselves as often as possible but they get carried away by whims and fancy of each other's magical attraction. Each comes with a set of needs and each tries to satisfy those needs by seeking abode in other's company and they don't ever think of developing themselves financially, mentally, emotionally, socially, spiritually, sexually and physically.

They get married without much preparation. They don't work on themselves, rather they prefer to assume that everything is fine. But in reality, if they don't work on their attitudes, emotions, finances, friendship and sexual appeal, nothing much can be expected in the relationship. Today couples must talk about their weaknesses and strengths so that they can figure out ways to reconcile the differences. However they fail to do a lot of homework on each partner. When things don't go well, they enter into quarrels and ultimately threaten each of dire consequences.

I have been married for 3 years now with a wonderful wife and son. I am so proud of my wife and my son. They complete me as a man because before the marriage and after the marriage, I ensured that my wife and I continually develop ourselves. I mean we engage in continuous learnings. We grow together by sharing our weaknesses and strengths because we want to live a wonderful life. It works and it is the best secret of marriage life in this changing time. Work on yourselves by personal development.

2. The couples don't do their marriage or relationship homework.
The couples neglect to do the marriage homework. There are many aspects of life which are to be touched upon and discussed through, and it is important that couples who want to lead an ideal lifestyle must engage in doing this work. If the homework is done properly, sincerely and seriously, then the marriage will last for eternity. So do the homework together with your partner before you get married and if you are already married, start the homework that you didn't do before the marriage. After the marriage, couples need to live their dreams according to their imagination or homework. They need to be happy while living their married life the moment they tie the knot. Happiness is experienced not at the end of married life but during the marriage.

3. The couples don't set right their goals, dreams and visions.

The couples who get separated are those who didn't bother to set right their goals, views, dreams and visions together. They assume that their dreams and goals are congruent with their ideal goals of marriage but in truth there is nothing much to gain. They both have jobs and their jobs demand their quality time but they have no quality time together to speak or share about their dreams. On the way babies come along as new members of the family and they occupy the major parts of their life. They don't find enough time to spend with each other to know and learn continuously about each other and then they slowly drift apart.

4. The couples don't know their purpose and mission.
The couples get married or date each other without realizing their ultimate purpose and mission in life. Marriage has its own purpose and mission. But the couples fail to attend to this aspect of life together. They don't know their purpose and since they don't have any idea about it, they tend to take things lightly and with no any regards. Couples' ultimate purpose in life is to lead a happy life, but their life turns out to be a life filled with miseries, curses and errors.

5. The couples don't buy each other flowers.
My wife loves flowers when I buy for her and she says the flowers remind us of our true, original and real love for each other. She feels appreciated and valued. And I feel happy to buy flowers for her whenever I feel the need without her expectation. This generates enthusiasm in relationship. I think the couples bought flowers for each other when they dated before marriage but they don't continue that after the marriage. It is a great way to stay together in commitment and loyalty with your partner.

6. The couples don't fuel their romance.
People have learned to fill gasoline in their vehicles but they forget the same analogy to refuel their marriage relationship. Marriage is like a car engine, which won't run without any fuel, to make the car run, one has to put gas and in the same way, if their is no sparkle, no refuelling of love, romance, attraction, magic words then there won't be any kinds of marriage worthy of praise or survival. It is important to refuel your married life with praise, encouragement, love, and magic words.

7. The couples don't continuously feel young.
The moment couples get married their feelings shift drastically towards becoming old and retiring in life. They don't behave and act like young people or young lovers. They get conformed to the old couples which they saw in their parents or neighbours. The couples who think and act young, they stay together forever till they die but the couples who think and behave like getting old, drift apart from each other.

8. The couples don't know what lifestyle to have.
Many couples have small dreams and they think they can it when they work hard for employers who give money in exchange of labour. The couples don't think big as a result they don't have big dreams. Big dreams and big thinking lead to having a great lifestyle but the couples don't engage in shaping their lifestyle together. Marriage is a partnership firm and if both partners don't contribute to run their business or marriage, then their relationship won't last long.

There are other many reasons, that we can think about which are responsible for couples being separated day after day these days. It is a sad story that number of divorce rate is increasing all over the world. Those who got separated in marriage, in the first place they shouldn't have married but because of whims, fancy or ignorance, they said a big yes to marriage.

Each individual is a responsible partner to sustain one's marriage and it is their duty to add some amazing things in relationship. Before you quit your marriage make sure that you do your homework and personal development together first.

Alwed Ekka
Guide Coach Mentor